Life was good. I didn’t think so at the time because it was the norm. Then the ‘Divorce’ happened…and everything turned upside down. I was 10 when my parents officially separated and 13 when the divorce was granted. Life as I knew it changed. Money, as I knew it changed. That one singular act impacted the way I viewed and interacted with money.
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6
Money is not loyal.
Save, save, save and once you have saved, save some more.
This is the training I got as a child. No, my parents did not intentionally instill these values into me. The divorce did. I experienced the change in lifestyle that came from moving from a dual income family to a single income family. I heard the word “No” more times than I cared. While we never lacked what we needed…money as I had known it changed almost overnight.
This singular, albeit life altering moment, impacted my relationship with my money. I became an impulsive saver, not from a position of knowledge but fear. And let me tell you, fear is a horrible master. I did not want to be led by fear any longer.
And while, I am still instinctually a saver, I have had to train myself to become an investor who is not afraid to spend my money every now and then. And that has been liberating for me.
What about you?
How is your childhood affecting your current relationship with your money?
What are you unintentionally training your children about money?
The great thing about money is that you can always change your narrative. You can always change the narrative you pass down to your children.
If you would like help with taking control of your money narrative, feel free to reach out to me. I would be happy to walk this journey with you.
Also, My Wealth Journal is a great resource that will help you uncover your money mindset.
Be blessed,
Noni